tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282611045408078347.post1829963149990185092..comments2023-07-05T17:43:40.878+05:30Comments on By Little and By Little: Tis The Season . . .Jo Chopra McGowanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15663017534433599497noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282611045408078347.post-54118601117284238462011-04-04T13:45:38.848+05:302011-04-04T13:45:38.848+05:30Hi Jo :)
I had the courage to learn all about my c...Hi Jo :)<br />I had the courage to learn all about my childs disability and learn from it but no school is going to make the effort for every child :)<br />Homeschooling worked so brilliantly for anandita except on the 'friend' front..<br />i always feel there are many options to simple 'conventional' schooling.Rather than lament a system,one simply has to understand perhaps how it works.<br />I just dont seem to get angry about her not being accepted.The anger seems to have long gone..I have seen lack of acceptance in playgrounds,in schools...getting angry about it,trying to change the way people think is not going to help me or anandita in anyway..maybe am just complacent :)<br />keep writing Jo.your posts make me think..Jyotsnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14992551736666239762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282611045408078347.post-51792894705551426892011-04-03T22:45:23.954+05:302011-04-03T22:45:23.954+05:30Wow, my two Jyotsnas!
Jyotsna 2, thanks for shar...Wow, my two Jyotsnas! <br /><br />Jyotsna 2, thanks for sharing your link. Such a poignant, insightful post. Yet sometimes I feel we should stop being philosophical when our kids are rejected and start getting angry. Why do we put up with it??? Supposing the school said they wouldn't accept her because she was a girl? Or because she was a Hindu or a Muslim or a Christian? Why do we accept it when it's because of her disability?Jo Chopra McGowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15663017534433599497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282611045408078347.post-29902442476148520082011-04-03T22:31:19.218+05:302011-04-03T22:31:19.218+05:30Jyotsna, I know, I know. But as a mother of a chil...Jyotsna, I know, I know. But as a mother of a child with special needs, I think society gives everyone a free pass when it comes to our kids. If I, as a Mom, were to say I just can't manage, I've got my other two to consider, I'm not trained, I don't know what to do - who would agree? Who would think I had the right to say such things? <br /><br />Yet that's exactly what we do for schools when teachers and principals make excuses for why they can't admit kids with disability. Parents can't get away with it and nobody allows them to: they're your kids, society says. <br /><br />Why does everyone else get to make distinctions? When a family has a child with a disability, they make adjustments. They learn about the kid's problem and how to cope with it. They aren't trained either, but they do whatever is needed because that's their job.<br /><br />I think the same is true for schools. They are there to teach children - whichever ones walk in the door with whatever special needs. They shouldn't be allowed to pick and choose anymore than parents can.<br /><br />I KNOW we need more teachers. But in the government system, at least, there are so many employed who don't even turn up to work. Maybe we could turn our attention there! Let's make the system accountable; let's make it work!Jo Chopra McGowanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15663017534433599497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282611045408078347.post-38156322446744276192011-04-03T20:50:47.145+05:302011-04-03T20:50:47.145+05:30Hi Jo,
This struck a chord with me as i have been ...Hi Jo,<br />This struck a chord with me as i have been there at that very sameplace of which you write about..about struggling with getting school admissions for anandita who has CP..<br />i blogged about it as well...http://jokumar.blogspot.com/2007/04/as-i-learn-and-grow.html<br /><br />somewhere a parent needs to understand their child better,their capabilities,their limitations and their strengths.<br />Somewhere as a parent one just wants everything 'normal' be it school.be it having friends to play with..<br />somwehere as a parent i have accpted my child to be different and people do notice the differences first.<br /><br />a thought provoking post JoJyotsnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14992551736666239762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282611045408078347.post-32671078668533671132011-04-03T18:23:43.721+05:302011-04-03T18:23:43.721+05:30Dear Jo, is schooling itself a necessary evil? As ...Dear Jo, is schooling itself a necessary evil? As Dayita says- its the cheapest way that society can get a few adults to look after a lot of kids. The problem is in the numbers, Jo. Every child is different. Every child needs lots of time - every child sees differently and hears different things. Those with very sharp eyes and ears and brains, those with clever hands and feet, those with voices and words - and those without all this - we just need a LOT more adults working with the kids of this world. <br />But, I know what you mean in the blog you have posted up. It almost makes one despair to see how things are. But there are people who are trying. God Bless you and all those who work with you. I just wish I could be more closely involved. JyotsnaJyotsna Brarnoreply@blogger.com